One commits a wrong mainly due to ignorance or helplessness in governing his conduct. Mind’s impurities – selfishness and possessiveness – overpower him. Therefore, whenever anyone ill-treats you, understand that he is in a mental crisis. Feel sympathy for him. Instead, if you foster hatred towards the wrongdoer, it becomes a greater wrong, even sinful. A hateful mind is the worst misfortune. Thinking thus, be calm and compassionate. Any person’s misbehaviour with you is at best a test for you, a help for your own inner improvement.
— Swamiji